Hooking up with an intelligent woman can have many benefits. You’ll have a good base for conversation and they aren’t so quick to shoot down ideas for trying out something new (and possibly kinky). Of course, consequently, you’ll have to adapt your flirting and dating technique in order to impress her. Intelligent people don’t suffer fools easily and are quick to catch on tricks that may have worked for you up until now. Luckily, you don’t need a PhD in the flirting sciences to have better chances.
Getting Her Attention
Although it would be wrong to say that an intelligent woman won’t be impressed by classical methods of drawing her attention, it’s safe to say that she’ll appreciate something different more. Compliments, showing off or common small talk can work, but you’ll be risking the eventuality of her thinking of you as an idiot. Avoid run off the mill sentences. If you’re trying to hookup online, then show that you’ve read her profile instead of just giving it a cursory glance. Talking about something that interests her can get you a long way and when you show genuine interest in the topic, your chances will be even better. She most likely will recognize what you’re doing within a few seconds, but if she allows it, then at least she’s interested in seeing what else you have to offer.
Don’t Try to be Smarter
A common mistake made when trying to flirt and hookup with an intelligent woman is to assume that they’re looking for a man who is equally, if not smarter, than her. This leads to trying to pretend to be someone you’re not and she is perceptive enough to see right through it. Not only will she get the feeling that her intelligence is threatening to you, but it’s also very annoying to deal with someone who is essentially telling her what to do. Think of it this way: You wouldn’t be particularly impressed if someone with no clue tried to tell you how your job works either. You shouldn’t treat your date like a personal game of Who Wants to Be a Millionaire, nor should you be in awe of her knowledge. Simply treat her like a human being and if you don’t know something, don’t be afraid of the following point.
Curiosity Won’t Kill the Cat
The absolute worst you can do to an intelligent person is to appear indifferent to what they’re talking about. You might think that listening to her will show your interest, but actually, it will look more like you’re tolerating her rambling. To avoid this mistake, don’t be afraid to ask questions. It shows that you’ve been listening and that you’re trying to keep up due to interest. Even if the question might sound silly to you, she’ll appreciate the gesture and more often than not, even the most innocent questions can provoke a new line of thought she may have never considered before. She’ll be grateful that you gave her the nudge into the right direction. Because in the end, it’s not about book smarts, but being a sensible date.